For the Writer: How To Cope When Frustration Sets In

A few days ago, I asked an author friend of mine about the posts he likes to read. Aside from How To Properly Articulate Ghetto Slang, he gave me the following topics:

I’m going to dedicate a post to each topic.

Last week, I addressed How to network with other writers.

Today we’ll discuss:

How To Not Get Down When Things Are Frustrating

Writing is hard.

Selling what you write is more harder.


The greater the challenge, the greater the reward.

The frustrations a writer experiences span the entire process from writer’s block to marketing, rejection letter to rejection letter.

We’ve already dealt with writer’s block.

Let’s focus on what happens after the creative process.

First, rejection.

Rejection from agents, rejection from book stores, rejection in the form of $0 sales.

Second, for the self-published author: having to deal with the business side of publishing can be the biggest headache of all. Nothing is more frustrating than telling your creative side “No! Sit,” so you can send emails to bloggers requesting a book review, setting up a book tour, figuring out distribution details, doing the job of an entire publishing team to at least make back your investment.

Whether it’s rejection, or wearing a hat you’re uncomfortable with, the key is perseverance–keeping the light at the end of the tunnel in view at all times. That means you need to keep your head up.

Greatness is never achieved without sacrifice.

When you hit the breaking point where you are about to throw your dreams away, keep going, keep learning, keep getting better.

How do you persevere as a writer?

I found the answer reading a post by NYT best selling author Denise Grover Swank. If you care at all about turning your passion into a living, read her post. She delves into eight steps she used to sell a half a million books.

  1. Write a damn good book.
  2. Before you hit publish, make sure your book has been critiqued.
  3. Don’t skimp on the editing.
  4. Don’t skimp on the cover either.
  5. When you decide to publish a book, you become a business.
  6. Don’t expect to make much money off of one or two books.
  7. Don’t waste your time marketing and promoting one book.
  8. It’s called social media not sell my book media.

Yes, building your dream to live your passion is frustrating. But, oh how much sweeter your validation will be when you can join Denise in the ranks of NYT Best Seller because you didn’t give up when it got tough.

Why are you still on my blog? Go learn from Denise here. Go! Shoo!

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